Pam. Andrews

Yes Pam Andrews is expecting a baby .This has been revealed by Pam her self this Past monday at the GQ awards held in Johannesburg. says the source. This Rhythm city beauty has been married to Cedric Thivlin for plus 3 years now.

Congratulations Pam and Cedric on your pregnancy!
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THREE LIFE STORIES OF STEVE JOBS

I was at the Apple Store yesterday and asked the Specialist what the mood was at the company. He mentioned that October 6th, the day after

Steve Jobs passed away, was particularly hard for the Apple employees. The reality of the passing away of the company's founder, visionary & leader had sunk in.

"It was business as usual….but without

Steve around. That reality was profoundly felt by most employees."

The guy also mentioned that in the coming weeks, Apple will be launching several events to celebrate the life & legacy of its late founder & leader. In the meantime, I would like to celebrate Steve's life & legacy by sharing with you guys his much talked about 2005 commencement speech at Stanford University. The transcript is below.

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long but worth watching & reading!):
I am honoured to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film,

Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called

The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960′s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

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Beyonce’s latest visual premiered

Thought You might love this three sum visual with mom to be Beyonce's 3 some not dream girls 3 some. you got to love Lady B.
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THINGS WOMAN SHOULD KNOW

Telling it like it is

"A Woman Should Have" – by Maya Angelou

Posted by Lin on August 16, 2007

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

a youth she's content to leave behind….

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …..

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .

one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

a feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to fall in love without losing herself.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that her childhood may not have been perfect…but its over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to live alone… even if she doesn't like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..

whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

where to go…
be it to her best friend's kitchen table…
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

what she can and can't accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

UPDATE:Ayanda NOT the author of "A Woman Should Have" The real author of this beautiful poem about women is actually Pamela Redmond Satran!
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Get Spring or Summer Lipstick tips. Scarf Article and Pics by:Fashionising

Lipstick colours for spring / summer 2011

When it comes to choosing your lip colour for spring it's time to make it count. Go for colours like bright red lipstick, coral lipstick, pinks and purples or perhaps a berry lip colour: whatever you choose should be vibrant and bold.
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4Ways for Man to wear a Summer Scarf

Some of our man are fashionista's,this is 1 of the ways they can look fabulous this Summer. Clearly there is nothing wrong in wearing a Scarf in summer.

four ways to wear the men's summer scarf.

If you're working with an ultra-thin fabric or a bandanna, why not roll it into a neckerchief and tie it in the front, Hemingway style.

The longer the scarf, the easier to throw it over your shoulder in this basic loop.
Unlike chunky winter-wool counterparts, summer-weight scarves can wrap multiple times around your neck, without swallowing your head in the process.

To add even more personality or a stylish accent, you can layer up two scarves. Keep in mind that there should be a subtle contrast in colour or pattern, as this allows the complementary fabrics to stand out.

The scarf that Ralph Lauren Rugby have used in this how to is from the Key West-summer collection
By Daniel P Dykes
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KEEPING YOU INFORMED ABOUT OUR LOVED STARS! ON SIZWE DLOMO

To be living our Sabc Screens soon. This announced by Sizwe him self on twitter.

Pic Farai
Ayanda Zigana_Tom

By: Yuri Elkaim

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EATING HEALTHY HAS A LOT TO DO WITH YOUR BEAUTY. Get a recipe that will keep Beauty h your health by 1 of my Dietician friends Ikraim

AHat foods that are natural,whole, and full of vital nutrients that you would not get such quick-fix foods–if you can even call them that's when we are looking for foods that improve energy we are really looking for foods that have a vital amount of nutrients and minerals vitamins water and life force that are all destroyed bythe processing and cooking process.That leaves us with this simple solution...

Eat more living foods.

Living foods are foods that are essentially raw,like pears, apples, bananas, and all other types of fruits and vegetables.It really isn't rocket science. If you want more energy, focus on eating foods that are inherently high in energy and that leave you with a sustained level of energy throughout the day.Natural whole foods will always give you more energy, and sustained energy throughout the day,because they don't cause a quick surge and crash of blood sugar.They also provide you with essential food enzymes, which enable better digestion, greater amounts of life force, and vital nutrients which do not exist (at least not to the same degree) in cooked and processed foods.The other big reason that natural whole foods–specifically raw foods–give you more energy is that they are a very high source ofalkalinity. This is important because when your body is alkaline–specifically your blood–it functions as it should.This is in contrast to what most people experience in the Western world.Most Westerners' diets are acidic in nature. They consume lots of animal products, processed foods,grains, and sugars, all of which leave an acid residue in the blood.This becomes a big problem as our blood needs tobe slightly alkaline–the opposite of acidic – to perform its duties.So how does an alkaline bloodstream give us more energy?Well the answer is quite simple. When our blood is alkaline our red blood cells are able to flow freely and deliver oxygen to the cells within ourbody.When this happens as it should, then we are instate whereby our body produces energy almost effortlessly. It's almost like driving on the highway at 3 AM–when there is very little traffic.Conversely, when the blood is acidic, our red blood cells clump together and do not flow freelythroughout the body. As a result, our cells donot get the oxygen they required to produceenergy.This is the fundamental physiological reason whyyou can feel either lethargic or energetic. Itcomes down to what's happening in your blood,which is a direct reflection of the foods you'reeating.So if you want to improve your energy, focus oneating an alkaline-rich diet. And very simply,this means adding more fruits and vegetables intheir raw state into your body.So here are a couple of examples to help you out...

Water

Most people are lethargic, tired, and haveheadaches because they're dehydrated. By simplydrinking more water, you improve your body'shydration and allow it to use the water that itrequires.A general rule of thumb is to drink half yourbody weight in pounds, in ounces. So if you weigh180 pounds, you would drink 90 ounces of waterper day. This is ideal in a resting state - ifyou're exercising you'll need more water.And that leads me to my next recommendation...

Eat more raw foods.

Raw foods, as we mentioned previously, arewater-rich. That's because they have not losttheir water due to the cooking process.Plus, instead of worrying about how much wateryou should be drinking every day, simply add morefruits and vegetables into your diet and you'llautomatically get all the water you need.A simple way of doing this is by making freshjuices and smoothies.But I don't want to leave you hanging, so here'sone of my favourite smoothie recipes that is sureto energize you at any point of the day:1 banana

1 Apple

1 pear

1 head of Boston or romaine lettuce1/2 a handful of parsley

the 

juice of ½ a lime2 to 3 cups of water

* Simply blend all ingredients together in ablender and enjoy.
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For Rap Lovers I BRING YOU T.I & Nelly

Atlanta rapper had his first post-prison interview at the V-103 radio station in Atlanta with Ryan Cameron.

T.I talked about his decision to going back to making music for those that supported his first two albums and were loyal to him (Bankhead folks).  He revealed his new docu-series (not reality show because according to him, "there is somewhat of a stigma to it"). Of the docu-series, he said:

Anything you associate my name with is going to be eloquent, classy and ghetto at the same time

Said Allegro from
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